Your Words Have More Power Than You Think
Shifting Energy With Words 101
by: Brandie Younce
We all have issues that we bless or curse with our words. We say things like “This works for me” or “I can’t stand that.” And, like it or not, wherever you go, there you are! If you would rather spend more time with the good vibes than the bad, here’s how to catch the words that come out of your mouth and rephrase them for the better.
I was one of those kids who had a lot of pen pals. I loved to read and write letters and with e-mail it became easier to keep in touch. It also became easier to arrange words and sentences dynamically. I began to realize the significance of the words I used and how the emphasis I put on them caused a palpable effect. Now I’m aware there is evidence that the words we use do have actual power. In the book Angel Words: Visual Evidence of How Words Can Be Angels in Your Life, Doreen Virtue and her son Grant describe their discovery while recording podcasts that words like “happy” had large recording graphics yet words like “angry” had small, tight graphics. In his most recent book, Messages from Water and the Universe, Masaru Emoto, a Japanese doctor of alternative medicine, delves deeper into his decades long study of similar evidence with water crystals. And in his famous book The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz lists “Be Impeccable With Your Word” as the First Agreement. Mr. Ruiz says to “use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.”
This power was demonstrated for me recently by my chiropractor, who muscle tested me with two mystery words. My muscles held strong to “love” but gave in like a wet noodle to “hate.” The gist of it is that inside our bodies and outside where auras reside, words vibrate either supportive healing energy or oppressive harmful energy. So what can you do to shift your energy when it’s so easy to cry foul? Just become more consciously aware of your vocabulary. Not only the words you say out loud but those you say to yourself. Of course, it’s okay to use words like “terrible” to express how you feel. And sometimes words just slip out. But noticing how you really feel is the baby step toward deliberately changing the words you use to improve whatever is ailing you. The good news is that power is in the present moment, so you can always shift your energy by doing an impromptu vocabulary makeover.
But while simply swapping out one word for another proves miraculously beneficial, we need to take it to the next level to make a more powerful shift. We often don’t realize that the things we think — beliefs like “there isn’t enough and I don’t deserve any” — are affirmations that keep that sentiment true for us. We look for evidence to prove that our belief is true. “See, I told you that always happens to me!” Even labeling something as “good” or “bad” limits the scope of possibilities. Not only do these beliefs come from family and friends, but from our communities and the media as well. It’s not who we are, but we took on these popular words and phrases anyway. And as they loop in our heads, we may not remember when or how they got there or the cause and effect they’re creating around us. But it’s our choice and responsibility to catch and change these statements ourselves. This is highly recommend since, as the universe goes, like attracts like.
One could argue – and I might agree – that you can’t control absolutely everything. But you can contribute to the expansion of positive energy around you by shaping your intentions into sentences that have a higher vibrational spin. Now that you’re ready to do this, you’re on your way to creating affirmations that will shift your perception, your approach to life, and the things that happen around you.
There are a million affirmation variations out there. If you follow any of the spiritual teachers on Facebook or Twitter, your head will spin with their myriad suggestions. So I came up with the following six steps compiled from their collective lessons to create and use affirmations that are unique to you:
- Get clear. You may be upset when someone you love doesn’t magically know what you want. But do you know what you want? Get clear with yourself first. If you don’t know what you want, here’s the trick of the trade: once you know what you don’t want, you know what you do want. It all begins with you. If you want to be happy and feel good, it’s your job to figure out how. Then you can ask for precisely what you want from the universe and others — who will then both be better able to assist you.
- Set your intention. Beware of doubt and self-sabotage, which will hold you back. Maybe you think you want to move across the country, but the child within you thinks you’ll be safer back home. Maybe you insist you want to quit a habit, but a part of you is heavily dependent upon it. Dig deep and bring up underlying issues so you can question the belief and intend authentically and passionately to go through it.
- Repeat. Since our subconscious mind is responsible for all the sad songs we sing, our conscious mind has to practice singing the happy songs. Help your conscious mind out by posting notes with appropriate words and affirmations on your bathroom mirror, the dashboard in your car, or your computer at work. Now when you go about your daily routine you are reminded to repeat these words so they eventually replace the lower vibrational thoughts. But you don’t have to tell anyone what you’re doing, so if you have to keep it private, leave notes in your planner or wallet. Louise Hay, the Queen of Affirmations, suggests writing your affirmation down numerous times each day, if you fancy that.
- Detach. “The Beatles got it right,” to quote Dr. Wayne Dyer. Let it be. Don’t expect a speedy, ego prescribed, so-called perfect, made-to-order outcome from the universe, because it just doesn’t work that way. It wants you to continue with your affirmations but not to be so attached to them, because attachment is expectations, and expectations are control — your free will — and it can’t mess with that kind of resistance. It may help to keep “this or something better” in mind.
- Allow. Here is where you act “as if” the words you’re using are true for you. Because of the like-attracts-like bit, if you’re saying you don’t have something, the universe has no choice but to agree with you. (This is also why you’d want to detach from expectations, since you’re saying you still don’t have what you’re asking for). So believe that what you are affirming is already there or is coming to you and you are ready for the surprise all in good time.
- Be grateful. The more grateful you are, the more easily these things come. Simple as that!
So if one of your battle cries is “I’m so tired but I can never fall asleep,” you could follow these steps to 1) declare that you don’t want to be tired so you do want more energy and fulfillment in your life so you can relax. On the flip side of your previous statement, you would 2) set the intention and affirm: “I am well rested and fall asleep easily.” Then 3) put the broken needle on the record and let this affirmation skip in your head and off your tongue, 4) whether you truly believe it or not. Then 5) go on about the business of each day knowing you put your intention out there and 6) be grateful for any evidence of improvement, however large or small. You can use these steps to update your word wardrobe to improve any and all areas of your life.
As you do this, you may hear a voice in your head make a reasonable argument that it’s stupid. Your ego insists it’s really looking out for you, and since it sounds a lot like the seemingly well-meaning people around you, you may be convinced that it knows best. But persevere and eventually these steps will become a new habit, your authentic voice will be louder, and before you know it, you’ve made small changes that lead to a big improvement. Alas, we are human after all. I confess that I go in and out of using these steps and keeping up with my word hygiene teachings. Sometimes I even scoff at the entire concept. But I always concede that the words we choose greatly shape our path in life. And a little effort is better than none. So do the best you can and forgive yourself for any missteps along the way. If you find that you just can’t use a better word, stop and don’t think anything.”
You can always fall back on the most famous affirmation out there: “All is well”
Now, watch what you post on Facebook!
photos by: Kim Cass & photostock